I've been meaning to blog about a challenge I received from my good friend Betty Kasson in a Christmas letter she and Jim sent this last year. (I had the extreme pleasure to work for Jim while I was at ROLM in the '80s. I met Jim's wife Betty and the three of us became lasting friends.) I can't say it better than she can, so here goes:
Here is a thought for your consideration this year. Jim and I went to a dinner party given by some nice people we don't know very well. During dinner, a political issue came up, and everyone at the table froze with that deer-in-the-headlights look people now get when they are not sure they are in the presence of shared political views. After an uncomfortable silence, someone brought up another topic and the conversation continued in a non-political vein. I went home distressed by the experience. If intelligent people of good will can't discuss these issues, something is wrong. We are living in a time when extreme positions have become the norm, and moderate stances are condemned as wishy-washy. How do we create common ground so we can talk about the important issues of our time? Let me make a modest proposal. Let's start a grassroots campaign to discuss the 'good society'. I invite you to sit down with people you value and ask them, 'What do you see as the important components of a good society?' Let's envision and articulate the world we want our children and grandchildren to live in. I don't think we're as far apart as we are led to believe. We are the people who can create this reality. I'm not ready to let someone else do it for me and my family, and I bet you aren't either.
I believe that we believe we're far apart from others politically because it's in the interest of news media to convey that: the media gets more viewers when there's something 'hot' to talk about. So I agree with Betty that I think we're much closer to each other's views than we might think we are. I do know that a couple of queer guys living in Iowa - John and I - can become friends with neighbors who are very different politically.
Now I've not yet held a dinner featuring Betty's idea, but I plan to. I'll report back with what happens. And I encourage you to reach out and talk to other people of good will. I actually believe that social change doesn't begin at the political and policy level; it begins at the personal level, the grassroots level. That means you and me.







